Many of us only start learning to communicate when a relationship is already at breaking point. I’d love to offer you another way in.

Hi, I’m Olivier. I support men who want to thrive in all their relationships: at home, at work, with friends, and with themselves.

Relating is difficult. There are no classes for it at school, so most of us learn the hard way, and pick up habits that don’t always serve us. We get angry when the person in front of us needs compassion and understanding. We go quiet when they need to understand what’s going on for us.

Maybe, like me, you didn’t grow up with examples of how to meet conflict, your own emotions and your relationships in a way that felt fulfilling and nourishing. Maybe, like me, arguments rarely ended well, and things often spiralled from there. I wanted to do something different, and to change the story I had seen all around me. So I set out on a path of discovery, and I’m still learning every day.

I believe we learn the most alongside people who are still learning themselves. I’ll be learning my whole life, and I invite you to learn with me. Along the way, I’m happy to share what I’ve found, so that you can find more ease, depth and joy in the way you relate.

I bring together Nonviolent Communication, nervous system awareness, attachment theory and a lot of practices. Tools you can use at the dinner table, in the middle of an argument, or on a walk with a friend.

You can work with me one to one or join one of the groups I facilitate. I also run workshops on the principles of conscious communication, and gatherings that go deep indoors or, when the weather allows, take us outside. On the retreats I organise and co-organise, we reconnect with ourselves, with each other and with nature. And if you already have some experience with NVC, you’re welcome in the online NVC men’s group I’ve co-hosted for almost seven years.

If you’re a man, you’ve probably learned that you should behave a certain way, speak a certain way, think a certain way and feel a certain way. Here, I want to welcome you not as you were taught to be, but exactly as you are, with all your parts and layers: the ones that feel safest to show, and the ones that feel a little scarier to look at. You are welcome here, in your wholeness and your weirdness.

Weaving Connection: Within, Between, and Beyond