Therapy, communication and men’s work
Olivier Passebecq
Welcoming your wholeness, your weirdness,
and everything in between.
If you’re here, it might be because you want to heal, grow and thrive.
Hello, I’m Olivier, and I’m glad you’re here. Learning to relate, with myself and with others, has been the biggest gift of my life, though it didn’t always feel that way. This website is my way of following my purpose: sharing that gift, and supporting others in ways I deeply believe in.
Maybe you keep bumping into the same patterns: the same argument with your partner, the same distance with friends, the same old tension with your family. People listen, and still it’s hard to feel really seen. There are things inside you that you’ve never said to anyone, because they feel too embarrassing or too much. You like people, and people can also be a lot for you. And underneath, you’re longing for something different: to be understood, to trust, to feel appreciated for who you are and not only for what you do.
I believe each of us carries an incredible wisdom within, and that life and painful experiences can make it hard to reach. I’ve spent years finding ways back to mine. Now, supporting you on your journey is part of what makes my own meaningful.
A big part of my work is with men. Many of the men I meet have people around them, and still rarely feel truly heard, especially by another man. If the idea of a men’s circle makes you cringe a little, you’re not alone. This is a different flavour of men’s work, and it might sit differently with you. You can join one of the groups, workshops and retreats I run in London, online and sometimes further afield, or work with me one to one. Outside of the men’s groups, I also work with women and couples, one to one and in mediation.
Here, I want to welcome you not as you were taught to be, but exactly as you are, with the parts you show easily and the ones that feel scarier to look at.
What I’ll ask of you
- Curiosity about your own part in what keeps happening, even when it’s easier to see what others are doing.
- A willingness to feel what’s there, and to learn what it’s telling you.
- Patience. The patterns that shaped you took years to form, and changing them takes time.
What I’m committed to
- Honesty and presence.
- A space where the scariest thoughts and emotions are welcome.
- Embracing vulnerability, and what it opens.
- A trust that tenderness and strength grow together.
An acorn becomes an oak because it grows leaves: thin, tender, sensitive to every shift in light and weather. Through those leaves, the tree feeds itself and builds the strength of its trunk. Without the vulnerability of the leaf, there is no strength in the trunk. And a trunk without leaves is just a dead tree. We need both, the strength that holds us and the tenderness that keeps us alive.
I want to help build spaces safe enough for what’s tender in us, so our strength can grow with it.
If you’re looking for a quick fix that leaves emotions out of it, I’m probably not your person. If you’re not sure, write to me and we’ll find out together.
Looking for support for someone you love? You’re welcome to reach out, and we can find a way in that suits them.
